Is it just me, or are news stories becoming more and more bizarre? Did you know the State of Colorado is pushing a bill for State mandated pre-wedding classes? And I’m left asking one more time – please, what next? First of all, there are many people who already have a problem with Church and State. My Pastor in New Jersey also held the position of Secretary of State for many years, and I have a couple of friends who had a problem with just that. Personally, it never fazed me. However, I do have a problem with Government sticking their noses where it truly does not belong. If this Bill is passed it will require couples to take a ten (10) hour class before their walk down the aisle; twenty (20) hours for a second marriage, and thirty (30) for a third. So, my next question will definitely be this – where will those counselors be when, and if there are problems down the road?
We know there is a law in the Catholic Church where members must attend Pre-Cana classes before the wedding. This, of course is a church rule that has been in place probably since the beginning of the church. As a Protestant, hubby and I didn’t mandatorily have to attend any classes. We simply had a brief discussion with Pastor about things in general. Well, not so general, the questions did have to do with wedded bliss. Now, so many years later – more than I’d like to admit, if I take the time to think about this topic – I’d have to confess, no such class would have helped. I understand, the main reason the State may want to institute such a ruling is to cut down on divorce cases bogging down the court system. But, come on, will mandated counseling help? So, in essence, do these government officials believe this law will put the fear of God in a couple? I’m laughing out loud as I write that, because only God can do that.
Another good point I must add, actually two, and I say this from my many years of matrimony, as well as what I hear from day-to-day. There are those to quick to say “Yes,” or to speedy in asking, “Will you.” Please know, I say that with tongue in cheek, because as I’ve mentioned before, hubby and I dated six weeks – he asked, and I said, yes. Who knows, maybe we both had seriously become tired of the party scene, or as I’ve also said before the entire meeting had been pre-ordained. Is there a way to tell? Who can say for sure. But, let me add this bit of advice – I don’t think it’s necessary to date someone three (3), four (4), or five (5) years before you know if they’re the one for you. I also think this ceremony is not an act that should be looked at as cosmopolitan – as in the Reception being the ultimate party. Lastly, first and foremost, a person should not go in to a marriage thinking that if something goes wrong, they can always just get a divorce. One must understand this is a serious commitment, and the words spoken during the nuptials are binding; obliging one to spend time working things out instead of just giving in to divorce.
With all that being said, you must agree there is no class that is going to make you stay. To look at it another way, imagine telling your better half, those ten hours will definitely keep me on the straight and narrow. No government agency can strengthen, or soften a heart. What I believe is most important – understand the relationship has to be worth fighting for, and if you don’t have that impression once you’ve decided to ask, or say yes, then the entire thing needs rethinking. Step back for a minute. But, the more I think about this, the more I realize, this is one topic that I am very old-fashioned about. I’m one of those who’d like to go through the television, grab one of those Bridezilla “Brides to be,” smack her around and yell, “Snap out of it.” Please, tell me what you think.
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