I have loved music since childhood. I guess it’s because I grew up in a home always filled with someone singing or the stereo playing. Of course growing up this way gives one an ear for good music. Yes, just like the stereotypical black southern woman in the church choir – my grandmother, an aunt and my mother all began singing there. In fact, not many people know this little tidbit of information, but I often think of it; as a little girl I remember my mom singing in a quartet. They called themselves “The United Echoes,” and they sang live right here in Virginia on the radio in the ’50s. Two particular gospel songs always come to mind when I recall that group – “I’m To Close,” and “Come Ye Disconsolate.” Let me just give a little plug here, and say Roberta Flack and Donny Hathaway have a spirit-filled rendition of the latter. As soon as I got my iPod, those were two tunes that mandatorily had to be added to the “Gospel” category.
Moving on, in 2006 my mom had a minor procedure where she had to be hospitalized and undergo surgery. She healed perfectly from the operation. However, she did contract that dreaded HA-MRSA bug or Health Care Associated Methicillin-Resistant Staphylococcus Aureus (something running rampant in certain hospitals here). One month later, my poor mother still had not returned home. Her doctor wanted to make certain all the infection had been beaten. He therefore, strongly suggested she remain for an additional week of antibiotic drip. Her private insurance requested she be moved to another facility; a nursing home conveniently sat attached to the other side of the building – she simply had to be rolled on over.
I must say, these places are a story in themselves. I spent the entire week with her there and got a chance to watch all the goings on up close. During the day appeared like five o’clock at Grand Central Station. Residents were allowed to move about, and one will forever stick in my mind. The elderly, heavy-set African-American woman from farther down the hall in the other direction, and her wheelchair. Although she suffered from dementia, she had no problem with her hands and arms. The entire day she whirled herself around, rolled up and down the hallway, and sat right at the entrance of my mother’s room. She would talk to me about how she loved it when I came to visit her at her home, and how she hated to see me leave; on and on she would go.
Then, one day toward the end of my mother’s stay, our new friend sat all the way in the room this time. My mother lay in her bed with her eyes closed; quite miserable, homesick and trying I’m sure, to will herself anywhere but there. Out of nowhere, and completely unprovoked, a deep soulful hum emanated from this elder – this grandmother to which time had been unkind. One that sprung open the eyes of my upset and fed-up mother. She snapped her gaze in my direction, and then to the woman. For that instance we both got the impression of being immediately transported to another time. A moment in the clichéd south – a slavery scene or a 1930s African-American movie with Mahalia Jackson humming an old Negro spiritual. I got chills, and my mother could only stare at me and shake her head in amazement. I read somewhere – every now and again, when you’re talking to God, you have to hum so the devil doesn’t know what you’re saying. The elderly woman simply turned her chair, wheeled herself back through the door and hummed her way down the hallway evidencing no matter how unkind time had been; dementia or no dementia, nothing would steal the song in her heart. We all should have that much love for music, that absolutely nothing will steal it away.
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